Being a diva often carries negative connotations of being self-absorbed, demanding, and difficult to work with. As Christians, we are called to live humble, selfless lives that put others first. Here are some biblical principles that can help Christians avoid diva attitudes and behaviors:
Cultivate humility
Pride is at the root of diva attitudes. Scripture tells us “God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble” (James 4:6, 1 Peter 5:5). We should follow Christ’s example of humility, counting others more significant than ourselves (Philippians 2:3). This involves regularly examining our hearts for pride and asking God to develop His humility in us through the Holy Spirit (Galatians 5:22-23).
Serve others
Divas demand to be served by others. As Christians, we are called to serve one another in love (Galatians 5:13). Look for opportunities to put others first by assisting, encouraging, and meeting needs. Be quick to listen and slow to speak (James 1:19). Offer hospitality and use your gifts to build up others (1 Peter 4:9-10).
Guard against selfish ambition
Diva behavior is often motivated by selfish ambition and desire for recognition. Scripture instructs us to “do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves” (Philippians 2:3). We should be satisfied with living quietly and tending to our own affairs (1 Thessalonians 4:11).
Think of others as better than yourself
Divas think highly of themselves and look down on others. But Scripture exhorts us to “outdo one another in showing honor” (Romans 12:10) and to “count others more significant” than ourselves (Philippians 2:3). Esteeming others starts with our thoughts. We can combat pride by intentionally thinking of others as better than ourselves.
Consider Christ’s example
Christ demonstrated profound humility and selflessness. Though fully God, He “emptied himself” to become human and die for us (Philippians 2:7). Jesus washed His disciples feet, showing His willingness to serve in lowly ways (John 13:1-17). When reviled and persecuted, He responded gently and entrusted himself to God (1 Peter 2:23). Meditating on Christ’s humility provides an example for us to follow.
Focus on stewardship, not status
Divas focus on gaining status and privileges. But as Christians we are called to be good stewards of what God has given us (1 Peter 4:10). This means using our gifts, resources and influence wisely and generously to serve God’s purposes, not inflate our ego. Our sense of worth comes from being treasured by God (Isaiah 43:4), not worldly status.
Value others’ input
Divas disregard and belittle others’ opinions. But Scripture instructs us to associate with the lowly and not be wise in our own sight (Romans 12:16). We should value correction and listen to the counsel of others (Proverbs 12:15). Let go of the need to control every detail, and allow others to contribute their perspective.
Cultivate gratitude
Divas feel entitled and expect preferential treatment. But God instructs us to “give thanks in all circumstances” (1 Thessalonians 5:18). When we reflect on all God has graciously given us, it delivers us from unhealthy entitlement and makes us content (Philippians 4:10-13). Gratitude focuses our mind on God’s blessings rather than what we lack.
Surrender need for control
Divas demand their own way. As Christians, we are called to surrender control to God and accept His will over ours. “In all your ways acknowledge Him and He will make your paths straight” (Proverbs 3:5-6). Yielding to the Spirit enables us to display “love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control” (Galatians 5:22-23).
Seek accountability
Since divas reject feedback, they perpetuate unhealthy patterns. Scripture exhorts us to exhort one another daily (Hebrews 3:13) and confess our sins to each other (James 5:16). Humble yourself by regularly inviting constructive criticism from spiritually mature believers. Submitting to accountability helps guard against pride.
Pray for humility and wisdom
Scripture instructs us, “If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask God” (James 1:5). Since proud attitudes can be subtle, regularly ask God to reveal any diva tendencies. Pray for wisdom to understand how your actions impact others. Seek the Spirit’s help in nurturing Christlike humility, meekness and compassion.
Remind yourself of Christ’s sacrifice
Diva attitudes reveal a sense of entitlement and significance. But meditating on the cross delivers us from pride and entitlement. Remind yourself that “while we were still sinners, Christ died for us” (Romans 5:8). The Son of God sacrificed His life for those who rejected Him. This deep love and grace transforms how we view ourselves and others.
Examine your motivations
Diva behavior often exposes deeper issues like insecurity, need for approval, or desire for control. Humbly ask God to reveal the root motivations behind your actions. Are you seeking to bolster your ego or reacting to wounds from your past? Invite the Spirit to heal and fill emotional needs so your identity is firmly rooted in Christ.
Value Christlike character over talent
Divas often feel superior because of their giftedness and demand exceptions based on their talent. But Scripture instructs us to clothe ourselves in compassion, kindness, humility, meekness and patience (Colossians 3:12). God values Christlike character over charisma or skill. Developing these virtues pleases God and blesses others.
Remember you’re a recipient of grace
It’s easy to judge diva tendencies in others while excusing it in ourselves. But we all stand in need of God’s grace. “For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God” (Romans 3:23). Remembering that we did not deserve God’s mercy and kindness helps us extend patience and compassion toward others.
Die to selfishness and pride
Scripture instructs us to “put to death” sinful attitudes like selfishness, entitlement and pride (Colossians 3:5). This happens as we daily surrender our lives to Christ and ask the Spirit to transform us into His image. Position yourself in humility before God and others will come naturally. Dying to self is a lifelong process.
Avoiding diva attitudes requires intentional examination of our hearts before God. By continually yielding to the Spirit’s work in our lives, He produces His loving, selfless character in and through us. The more we fix our eyes on Christ, the more diva tendencies will fade as we become like Him.